Okay, so, this is a new experience for me as a member, but I was hoping someone with a little more experience might be able to shed some light on it. I recently returned from an absence of about four months to a RP site because of IRL issues, some relating to health and fairly serious. The players said it was fine, take my time...the usual. I, by no means, expected the site to pause while I sorted life out, but, when I came back, there has been a hurdle beyond just general catch-up. Something to the point that I am wondering if I should just find another site and start from scratch. Here's the situation: I have been back for a few weeks now. I am getting the "busy" excuse from almost all the players, and, any time I suggest or respond to a plot idea, get deflected with suggestions of possible other characters (who is run by another player) who could play it. I understand some of them are actually busy on-site or IRL, but this pattern is happening with nearly everyone on the site...Two have claimed to have too many threads on the go, only to start up two new ones with each other a couple hours later! The only people who seem willing to RP with me are the ones who have joined in my absence. The others, including the admins, seem to be scared to touch my characters, like they are some sort of leppers, lest I leave again. So, I guess my big question is for anyone who might have been in the situation before: Is this just a bump in the road that should be waited out a little longer, or is it better to just leave and find a new site? Is it really possible to re-join after a long absence successfully or is it an RP urban myth, so to speak? When I joined, I really enjoyed this site, the community, and the general setting and plot, so I am not looking for an excuse to leave...I just don't want to waste my time if it is not going to get better, or, at least have some warning, if it is going to get worse before it does start going up.