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Are You Sure? - It Says Positive!

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    If this has been done recently, excuse me.
    Now I've been thinking, in my long (or probably not) 7 years of Roleplaying, I've noticed a few things when it comes to Roleplaying out pregnancies.


    One of the most common things I see is, in fact, becoming pregnant. I see it a lot. I've always sort of seen it a lot. It's almost as if people thing the only dramatic plot you can do with a woman is get her pregnant! It's almost always an accident, as well. I've never really seen anyone Roleplaying someone trying to get pregnant.

    And then I've seen a lot of pregnancies roleplays never actually making it to nine months. And I'm not saying they waited eight or eight and a half months. I'm talking anywhere between four to six months. This is weird to me. Personally, I feel if you can't wait a normal length to do a plot, you shouldn't be doing it. Unless your timeline is going that fast. But in game time and in real time, I rarely see people actually playing out a pregnancy for the full term.

    Also, another popular thing I've seen is someone will be pregnant. Be it the whole nine months, or not. But then something ever so tragic happens and they no longer have the baby. It's stunning how often I've seen this, tbh with you guys. Is it someone who wanted the glamour of pregnancy, but didn't want their characters lives to be so changed by the fact that holy crap, now they have a baby? I don't know.

    Any other things you've seen common with Roleplaying pregnancies?
    Or have you even seen those things, and I'm just the only one or I've gone insane...er.
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    It doesn't matter how long the pregnancy term was OOC - it maters IC, and some board have their own different ratios. But I agree that a woman giving birth at 4 months IC is incredibly unrealistic, and that child would be stuck in NICU for a loooooong time, if it even that far. Better hope you have damn good insurance.

    I think you've already hit the nail on the head: people are impatient, and being pregnant is kind of a glamorous curiosity. Finding a player willing to play something that cannot communicate with others and can only cry and poop, for years, is extremely difficult - so this could partially explain the lack of offspring from the trend.

    On our board, we've fixed this and have a good birth/offspring rate by "skipping" over the time that the children are too hard to play. We say that after birth, there are 3 weeks when that child cannot be played at all, and that this time is fast-forwarded over their toddler years. When the player is allowed to play them, the child is much older, say, 6 years old. Very unrealistic, but for the sake of roleplay, it works out well.
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    That's funny... I can't recall ever seeing a pregnancy roleplayed out in human rp, but they are common as all getup in animal rp.

    With animal rp, aging happens a lot faster (two years old? You're an adult!) so it seems more feasible to me to go through pregnancies, have kids grow up, and develop families in rp. Maybe I've been hanging around in weird spots, but I simply can't think of a time that a humanoid I've roleplayed with has ever gotten pregnant, much less carried a baby to term. I suspect that's because, in humanoid rp, once you have that baby you'll most likely be saddled with it for the rest of that character's time on that particular site. Growing up just takes so gosh darned long. So, given that, I could fully understand and sympathize with someone's desire to speed up the pregnancy or kill the baby; it frees up that character to do a lot of things that the character would otherwise not be able to do for the remainder of their roleplay.

    I'd really love to see some nice pregnancies done well, though: happy, responsible adults, who wanted and planned for a baby, and play out all of the trials and tribulations that come with being a parent - especially a first time parent. It would be very interesting to read through! And it would be a nice break from the typical sorts of drama: being a parent seems like the sort of drama you wouldn't think is dramatic until you've already had a kid. :p It's a huge commitment: the level of commitment required to roleplay a pregnancy and the raising of a child is almost as daunting (okay, no it's not) as the commitment required to do the real deal. Scary things!
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    I have this (ex-)sister-in-law who loved being pregnant. Everyone took care of her, worried about her, doted on her, fussed around her. Both times she had her children, my mother-in-law would come and stay for anywhere from two weeks to two months and basically do all the housework - cooking, cleaning, everything - while my sister-in-law "recovered" in bed.

    I assume people who want to RP a pregnancy have a similar goal: to be the center of attention for a while.[sup]*[/sup]

    After a while, when the sparkle wears off the morning sickness RP, when the baby-daddy is tired of the same thread repeated indefinitely, when no one is still giddy and squealing about the IC baby... the novelty is gone, and the player is stuck RPing something that, as it turns out, really isn't all that fun. So they fuzzy-time the end of the pregnancy, RP a few times in the warm, soft glow of a new baby - or the bright, harsh light of the bitter fate that had them delivering early, and then go back to their regularly scheduled roleplay as if the whole thing never happened.

    It's just the nature of the beast. Many people RP to explore things they can't or won't IRL. Many of these people have a glamorized view of pregnancy, delivery, and the early infancy of a child. (Trust me, guys, it's not like TV tells you it is.)

    [sup]* [/sup]Your mileage may vary. Not everyone is like this, obviously, but this is the general trend I've noticed over the years.
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    I've gotta say, I haven't seen this much, but then, I'm the Admin so I can smack people and say 'no!'

    I've done 5 pregnancies in total since I started RPing, involving 3 characters.

    You had Tara and Teddy (I played Teddy on this one) where yes, it was an accident, but she carried til 2 weeks before her due date, and they had to C-Section because it was a full moon and Daddy was a werewolf, they were scared.

    We had Angelica and Scribo - who were together a long time. First time she got pregnant, she had a miscarriage (Early in the pregnancy, so no big hospital visits past the norm for the situation) and the second time, yes it was an accident and caused a lot of friction in their relationship, because Scribo hadn't wanted kids. But she carried to term (I think she was two days late in the end.) and... yeah.


    Then we have Mason and Quinn. Mason and Quinn are my big celebratory, yey look how normal pregnancy is story. Mason and Quinn had the most drama filled relationship, so many traumas there, but when they decided to have a baby, it was very normal. They started 'practicing' and soon enough, Quinn took a test one day and Hurrah, pregnant.

    Now, this is when you cue Quinn's freak out, thinking maybe she wasn't ready after all. Cue morning sickness and hormone frenzies. Cue odd food and complete refusal to eat some things. Cue getting big, getting really big, and complaining about it. Cue really funny b****y comments from her when she got pissed off. And best of all, (seeing as what people have said about pregnancies in RP) cue Quinn being two weeks late! She was going insane! IN the end, they had a perfectly healthy baby boy, and yey!

    Two years later, Quinn and Mason decide they want another child. So they start 'practicing' again. This time, it doesn't happen so easily. They try for months and nothing. It wasn't until Mason had been sent to prison that Quinn misses a period and realises she's pregnant. - Again, we played out everything. She wasn't quite as hormonal as the first time, but she certainly had her moments. With the second pregnancy, I think she was a couple of days early - she went into labour in a Casino. THAT was a funny thread.



    I get that people want big 'oh woe is me' drama, but I'm of the opinion that if you're going to play it, you're gonna play it right. Therefore, if my character gets pregnant, they will, most likely, stay pregnant for 9 IC months. It doesn't matter how impatient I get, I'll hold off. Maybe I'll write a thread before hand on word, but I won't post it until it's time. If you get your character pregnant on my site... you will be pregnant for at least 7-8 months if you want your baby to survive as we don't have a NICU.

    Chele Likes Realism People!

    Plus, personally, I find roleplaying the pregnancy more fun than roleplaying having a baby. Once a character has a baby, their life revolves around the baby for a while. Forget about massive action filled plot when you've got a two month old baby hanging off your breast.

    Yeah, Pregnancy is much more interesting to me, so generally, I drag it out as long as possible!
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    Good Lord, all the twin pregnancies, especially identical twins. I do understand there are reasons for twins plotwise, or genetic reasons, etc, but how is it every character who gets pregnant ends up with friggin twins?

    Also, single round of sex resulting in pregnancy. Yes, it happens that a person gets knocked up from a one-night stand or the ONE time with ONE person, blah blah. But the chance of getting pregnant in the BEST of situations (sex during ovulation with a partner with a normal sperm count) is still only about 20%! How is it every person gets knocked up losing their virginity or on a one night stand?!
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    9 months is a long time and some boards never make it so I can see the appeal in speeding things up if the only characters it effects are you and the partners.

    idk I think it depends on what you want to do. I've always wanted to do a one-night stand makes baby and the two have to work together and perhaps fall in love over time (classic romance novel plot device >_>)

    I'd love to join a board with a character who was already pregnant. shunned because she's considered fast and easy. never seen that done before.
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    The longer I am on the 'd, the more I think I couldn't fit anywhere else but where and with whom I play now.

    Played pregnancies, carried to term, in fact playing at least one right now. To be fair I have more than 2 characters so it's not like that particularly narrows my playing opportunities. It does take a long time but I am the kind of person who likes to latch on to a plot and then play the shoot out of it for a loooong long time. 9 month is okay.
    The other couple who will soon play one actually have been trying to conceive for a while now and really are responsible adults who just want to have kids together. The other pregnancy that is half way through now was planned as well.
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    I've seen a couple characters join boards as already pregnant. It works out pretty well so that they only have to RP out the number of remaining months, and most choose something they're comfortable with (between 3 and 1). This way if they get really bored with it they can always have a premature baby, or if they really end up liking it they can play out past events during the pregnancy (such as finding out, those mood swing days, etc.) in past-time boards.

    But I agree on all the points made above; most people seem to just want it for the glamor or drama. Many people seem to think it's the most dramatic thing that can happen to a woman and while I will admit there ARE some really juicy drama possibilities (a FtM transexual early-transition, for example, or someone who really, really wanted the baby, carried to term, and lost it at the last minute somehow), most are overdone and stagnant. Most give up. Most can't deal. And agreed that the infant is a big RP hindrance/block.

    I have played a character whom was almost always accompanied by a younger one, though. He was the older brother to his younger sister and while she wasn't a toddler she was still young, though about six so capable of (somewhat) intelligent thought. He had to take care of her so that was a major factor in his character, and unless someone else was watching her she was with him at all times. Stuff like that is definitely a commitment, but giving a babysitting or daycare to watch the kid is a useful way out when you want non-kid-involved RPs.

    Most people just don't have the commitment or patience for it, and I honestly can't blame them. I'd probably get bored with it, too. Then again, I don't really play many female characters, and the few I do play aren't about to go and get knocked up. I have no interest in that personally. What ever happened with the most dramatic thing happening to her being heartbreak? Most RL women take that way too seriously. Although I'll admit some characters take just that it to "unwanted dramatics" level.
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    It's funny, on our board now, there's a lot of twins, Moreso NPC twins than ones on the board. And someone said once that it's so uncommon. Which is weird, because I personally know(and Grew up in a small town) over a dozen sets of twins. About ten of them were all in my high school, and my Highschool didn't even have 500 kids. But I can understand that it's probably not normal. Our twins have usually been limited to families, as far as I know, twins can be genetic and all that jazz.

    And I KNOOOWWW! That drives me kind of insane. Especially when you couple it with every darn girl is on birth control and every guy uses condoms (seriously, what is that? Maybe it's the town I grew up in, but condoms? Hah. Boys hated those junk balloons). Sure, not 100%, but there's a heck of a lot of pregnancies that don't match up with the numbers.

    xD I think I've made some of my characters become infertile or unable to get pregnant simply to compensate.
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    Holy crap, that's a lot of twins! Sounds like your town had something in the water! ;)

    In truth, I've known a good number of twins in my life, and had a friend pregnant with twins at the same time I was pregnant with my daughter (I was with her when she found out it was twins, I'd taken her to the hospital while her husband was ill). I've also played twins in RP and had characters have twins (see what I did there?). I played twins with a twin! (Is that meta?) And I get that any RP setting is going to be a microcosm of reality, so you're going to have unrealistic numbers, but, man, I'd rather people had plausible reasons for their twin begetting.
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    I do play out pregnancy plots quite a bit, but the forum I am on is set in medieval times where they did not use BC and they wanted to have 18 kids. On my boards we do play them out the full 9 IC months. (and being medieval it is NOT uncommon for the pregnancy / birth to go wrong or for the child to die, as was common in that time period).

    As I've been pregnant before, I am very much intune to the steps through pregnancy when I write. I have had two drastically different pregnancies and often play off both. I also have had twins, so rping a twin pregnancies is easy for me (AND OMG THEY ARE NOT LIKE SINGLETONS OK!)

    Beyond that, what you all said is really good, and also....

    Pregnancy, A Guide, here on the 'D is absolutely fantastic!


    Edit, also fraternal twinning IS genetic, so if you play a female twin, your chance of having twins are much higher than normal. If you are a male twin, then your daughters can have twins. (boys, sorry, you don't affect your own children.)
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    That's interesting. I have trouble understanding why women like to define themselves by pregnancies but I'll stick to the roleplay.

    If my character got pregnant (oh she'd hate it) and if she did not get an abortion immediately, it would be a pregnancy that would have to last longer than 9 months. Because our timeline is a lot slower than rl time. So that would be a reason for me not to do it. If another character wanted to get pregnat, I'd ask all the writers if they would not mind skipping ahead in the time line, just to avoid montyh after month of posting about cravings, forgetfullness, getting bigger, slightly, every day, mood swings, false starts, 3 day labour....

    You know what. I may just write in a rule that we don't dop pregnancies... sounds like too much effort.

    Then again, I am sure it has something to do with our type of stories. I can see how this would work better in other settings... Hey, does anyone play a midwife?
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    Thankfully I haven't seen anyone people use pregnancy as an attention-ploy. I've been blessed to only play with people mature enough to use it properly.

    I have two pregnancies in my rp repertoire as well as a abusive teen pregnancy in one of my character's pasts. The first pregnancy I played out was between a couple who was very excited to have a kid, however the mother I was playing wasn't the strongest physically so the pregnancy did a serious number of her. I did speed up her pregnancy a bit, but only because months of playing her like a floppy damp dishrag of bedrest was quite enough thank you.

    Right now I am playing an accidental pregnancy: but it's with a married couple and their ecstatic for the lovely surprise. So yay!

    My character with a teen pregnancy in her past is an ex-FLDS child bride who ran away from the community before she even realized she was knocked up. As a result fifteen and pregnant was the best time of her life. She was suddenly free, happy, healthy and felt beautiful for a change. As a result: she's now sixteen and might be looking to get knocked up again when she has a chance. So that's a thing.

    Yay for no mistake-accidents! Only the happy kind here. :]

    I find it really sad that people would largely use pregnancy as a cheap ploy of drama and attention. It's such an important part of so many women's lives. Why not celebrate it a little? Or at least play it out in a realistic non-attention whoring way...

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    And yes! I have totally played a midwife!
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    I think I've only played one pregnant character in my time RPing. I made her pregnant from the get-go and her baby actually ended up being another person's character after a lengthy time skip. I look back now and think its pretty silly, considering I hadn't ever been pregnant at the time, but now that I HAVE been pregnant I think it might be fun to play out a pregnancy all the way to term. When the time is right.
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    Yup, I play a midwife and have in the past. I like 'em better than doctors. :)
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    On one of the games I play on it's a pern game ,a character did something really neat. She got pregantn and produced the child, but gave up standing for the dragon eggs-- for her baby-. It' was child 'Child or dragon'... and she chose her son. It was sweet.

    Which was more interesting because I had thought she might actually choose the dragon considering how many people ICly (and for good reason) kept calling the baby 'dragonspawn'.

    But I think that in-game pregnancies can bring some realism to a site (when done 'correctly'). I admit the IC & OOC time scales 'speed' things up, but sometimes there are things that should be played out-- first steps, first words... things and characters should interact with their offspring. They can be a GREAT PC development tool.
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    I'm currently playing two full term pregnancies and keeping both the kids, and I'm also scheduled for a full term pregnancy (we'll probably keep the kid, or the plot will be destroyed) where I play the guy.

    This is weird only because there are zero other pregnancy plots on my board. So all three are me? x_x I swear I didn't initiate any of these.

    Regardless, I've never seen any pregnancy plots done at all before I ended up playing so many (I don't know, probably the genre I played was too high-school?) so this was strange and a real learning experience. You have no idea how much research I've done and how many people I've asked (some of whom are in this thread! :D) to make sure I play it the best way possible and not make it a gimmick. Also, none of these are one-night stands or anything of that sort - both my girls are married (err...the second one just got divorced to marry the guy who she thinks is the father of the child...but is not...complicated) - and the other are a couple that have been a couple for a while. Plus, medieval standards of birth control. ^_^
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    On a really random note, because it's not about pregnancy but about children. I have a male character with a two year old son. - I am pretty sure the only reason people like this character is because of his son, NPCing him is hilarious!

    Hurrah for Midwives, need more widwife characters!
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    ^ I don't see how someone being a transgender can be a "juicy drama possibility", it's a person's gender identity and not something to be toyed with. Not a lot of people understand transgenders (or other LGBT things for that matter), sure a person can look it up on wikipedia or whatever but it won't be accurate at all - people shouldn't be taking LGBT individuals just for drama, a lot telly shows take the LGBT and use it as drama possibilities and there's lots of misconceptions that some RPers may not be aware of. What I really wanted to say is: A FTM is NOT a woman, and regardless of their position in transition is NOT a woman. They may be considered as such by those less informed but they are not women. And I don't see it a "juicy drama possibility", it's a serious psychological issue that should be treated as such, not like some light piece of a soap opera. It has to do with indentity and NOT biological sex.

    Now back to subject, I'm a male and I've played a pregnant woman before but the woman was pregnant when I joined, so it wasn't like she got pregnant. And there was nothing really dramatic about her pregnancy (I mean her husband was having an affair with another man, she was aware of it though xD - which does happen). Since I'm a male and don't know much about what it would be like, I had to do a heck load of research on pregnancy, etc.

    I've never seen this pregnancy trend before but I wouldn't be surprised if people did this for attention or to be dramatic as nothing surprises me anymore LOL. Nothing wrong with being dramatic, just be realistic and do it well.
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