Because yes, this is too big for dear ___.

So, my friend...who we'll call Dee likes this guy, "Brandon". Problem? I like Brandon too. Second problem? Dee is pretty much one of my best friends, and is almost like a sister to me. Bad situation? Yep. Bad situation made worse by the fact that through a series of really weird events he asked me to prom? Yep.

So, our friend Fred, who is really close to both Dee and Brandon tells Dee that she should tell Brandon that she likes him. She decides to, when we're all at my house watching a movie. (yeah, she knows I like him too. But it's okay.) So, in the middle of this movie, we go into the bathroom for a girl talk (we have like, this ginormous bathroom and it's really cool and I like sitting in there for no reason at all, so it made sense to go in there. LOL ANYWAY) and she tells me she's going to tell him, but she can't figure out how, or when.

Now, I know the kind of guy that Brandon is. And I also know that, as a general rule, guys don't like to be told by a girl that the girl likes them. But I didn't mention this. Because I was somewhat annoyed by her and a little jealous which is petty and really awful of me. So I didn't say anything. She tells him in letter form and he asks me my advice on what he should do. He ended writing her a letter back saying he didn't like her in that way.

Now things are somewhat awkward and I feel really bad because this is sort of my fault. And I totally fail, fail, FAIL. And I feel really, REALLY bad because I can't help but think that she sort of ruined any chance of him telling me he likes me in that way because he knows how close we are. I feel really horrible and petty. It's all like this horrible trainwreck...and I just can't look away. *sigh*

I hate those situations, but I guess this is where you follow your heart. Being your best friend, she has to understand. Sure, she may be a little mad, but ya know, not all of these stories have the most horrifying end. Me and my best friend in middle school had a crush on the same guy. When she hooked up with him, I was upset, but it was more then just her with my crush. She's my best friend and I gotta support her.

They eventually broke up and I moved on, but still. lol

Not a guy, but I must disagree there. I've always been the aggressor xD and never had a problem.

Now...this is a problem. Don't come down on yourself too hard, dear, because your own feelings do interfere in this because you like him!

Did he actually not like her, or did you tell him that he should write that? Because if the latter you may be in a bit of trouble and I'd advise against doing anything with him.

If you're innocent in him not liking her and you would like to be with him, I advise giving her a few weeks to cool down (being supportive, of course) and then tentatively saying that you think he likes you and would it be ok if you got together?

And if the answer is no then you have to consider whether your friendship with her is stronger than your attraction to him, I suppose.

I'm sorry you're in this situation love -hug-

Oh, no! He didn't like her. He wanted my advice on how he should get his reply to her, and I said a letter, and he asked me to read it after he wrote it. *hugs back*

Thank you both. I do feel a little bit better, and I do think I might ask her how she'd feel about it if anything did happen between us.

<3