Right. So, I haven't had a very good reason to rant lately, but recently, something has really pissed me off.

First, the back story: my boyfriend (we'll call him Jack) and I have been dating for almost two and a half years. Exciting, right? Anyway, last September, he went off to school about 150 miles away. Even though I didn't like the distance, I supported him. It was his school and his life, and he could go where ever he wanted.

During late January, my boyfriend's dad dies. Jack doesn't have his mother around, and was depending on his father for housing around here (even though he has poor relations with his father). Turns out that his father was renting the house they were in, and remaining family (aunts and uncles who live about an hour away) were responsible for moving everything out of the house in three weeks.

Just so we're clear, Jack doesn't have permanent housing now.

Jack went back up to school after the funeral, but came down during weekends to clean the house and find storage for the furniture and vehicles he inherited. During Mid-May, he finished off his first year at his school. Being that he couldn't afford to take classes during the summer or find an apartment around where he is, he came back down, where my family gave him a temporary roof over his head. Great, right? He stays here over the summer, and then moves back up to school. And hopefully by next summer, he can find an apartment that he can afford.

See, here's the issue: Now that he's gotten moved out of the house and back up to his school, my parents refuse to ever let him stay at our house again. It's not like Jack is up to anything bad, either. He did work some strange hours at work and came home late sometimes, but that was rare. He's a good guy. So if Jack ever needs to stay one night (for example, holidays with myself), then my parents would turn him away. The closest place he could go is still an hour further than where I am. Which is ridiculous.

Today I've been fuming over the fact that my parents can be so selfish as to deny somebody who doesn't have an actual home, a place to sleep. -bangs head against wall- They won't even let him stay if we pitched a tent in the yard and let him sleep there! Hell, they don't even want him camping with us anymore!!

-pulls hair out-

He doesn't have anywhere else to go!! How selfish can you be?!

It's not even the fact that he's my boyfriend. It's just that he is basically homeless, and my parents won't even let him stay one night if he needs to. Their only excuse is "He has family who'll let him stay with them." Obviously, my parents don't understand the extra hour of travel he'd have to take to get there. ><

Dang, I don't really think your parents are being selfish technically, more like rude than anything else or inconsiderate. Sure he has family to live with, but that extra drive can be a tad hard I bet. I don't really see what the problem is if he stays with you guys, other than your parents thinking something bad could happen between you and him that they're not ready for. Like sleeping together but whatever. Maybe you should have a calm talk with your parents, maybe you can change their minds.

Rude, that was the word I was looking for. XD

I don't see what my parents problem is, we've been staying in separate rooms. We wouldn't do anything like that in my parent's house. And I've attempted a calm approach to this, but they've been really stubborn about it, almost as if they're holding something personal against him. It really bothers me.

It does not seem like they are doing it for the sake of doing it. It does not just sound like it is inconvenient or something like that. Perhaps you should sit down and rationally talk to them about the situation, find out why they object to him staying, find out what it is that has actually caused it or if they are simply being unresonable. You may find there is a reason. I am not saying that your chap is a bad guy, I don't know him, how could I say that? But perhaps you are missing something that they have seen/heard because of your feelings. It happens. It has got to be worth investigating right?

Good luck and I hope it all works out for you. :-)

I can honestly say, that it sounds very frustrating.. and remotely uncalled for! Though there must be some reason why your parents are turned off by him all the sudden. I would have to agree with Kwentra. Definitely sit down and have a rational coversation with them and find out what is irking them to make them act like this.

Wishing you best of luck, and hopefully things will be discussed and actually make more sense or have an actual reason so you know where your boyfriend stands with them.