Man, it bugs the heck out of me when people apply, get accepted and then leave before they've even bothered to post in character. I spend a lot of time reading each bio before it's accepted. If I've accepted a bio, then chances are that the person has spent a decent amount of time working on it. So why waste both our time? More importantly, my time; if they're gonna jerk me around, I don't care about theirs. >.> It's pretty rude, really.

Heh. I don't even get that far. I look around the site, decide to join, gather everyone's IM details and tell several people I'm joining, start a character and then...I stop wanting to join.

So I try to be more discreet about my joining urges.

I think that putting up the application etc is stupid though. I personally create a new character (or a new version of one) every time I join a new site, so for people like me that's quite a bit of work that is then not used on that site. Some people use the same application sheet over and over though, so it's just a matter of copying and pasting.

I really don't know why I said that. It's relevant, but not necessary.

I don't really feel your pain at the moment, because my site is applicationless, but I understand in general terms -solemn pat-

Guilty. Honestly, the reason I think this occurs is because you don't find out how a site really is until you're all accepted and ready to start. For whatever reason, it's not what you expected and then you lose interest.

Well, I'll tell you the reasons I have left after applying in the past, although I didn't see any of them in your site, and I did look around a bit:

1) When I couldn't see the RP itself and it was either really bad (such as powerplaying) or really cliquish. I hate cliquishness.

2) When the admin took more than a week to approve the application but is online constantly doing other things. Sorry, but there's tons of sites out there, and there's no reason to join yours if you don't think applications are that important. Some admins seem to forget that they wouldn't have a site if not for the new members who join.

3) When the admin picks out really small, unimportant things from the application and makes a big deal out of them or picks out things when there are glaring inconsistencies in their own application.

4) Ganging up on newbies, especially on issues like posting OOCly when you don't have a rule about it to begin with and aren't smart enough to block new member posting access to that forum. I left that site in a hurry.

5) The last site I left had a lot of graphic stealing going on, and that completely unimpressed me. No, it is not okay to just take other people's art and use it for yourself, and I really don't care if 'other sites do it'.

I did that once, I admit. It was really a combination of factors, the primary ones being I was going against my instincts joining the board anyway -- it had a murky skin and color theme, a bunch of that stupid ;; '' stuff, required all lowercase names, etc. And then I really didn't like the way my app was handled once I did join. I made the requested changes and was approved, but the more I thought about it, the more it all grated on me. So I counted it a loss and moved on.

I used to do that a lot -- I'd get really excited, draft up a character that wasn't all that important to me, and then lose interest before I've even started posting. Ah, those were the days...

My problem was that I couldn't stick with anything long. I had the attention span of a three-year-old, and I site-hopped like crazy.

It wasn't until the last few years that I realized that I had to, in a sense, "wait out" my initial sense of enthusiasm; I had to look at a site, store it away in the back of my head, and then come back to it during the next few weeks to see if I was still interested. Most of the time, I realized that I didn't really want to join.

The other thing I had to do was to create characters that I really loved, not just these stick figures that I would puppet around in circles.


On the other hand, I've also had problem with cliques at RPGs -- I'd submit a profile and then realize that all the older players just wanted to roleplay with each other. That's not much fun, either. When it came down to that, I'd just leave without posting.

Yes, that annoys me to no end as well. But what bugs me even more is, people getting involved in the board-wide, making only 1 in-character post there, and then disappearing x__X