I won't name names so lets call the girl Jane.

Alright well Jane and I have been friends online for a while, but a few months ago I stopped talking to her due to the fact that she dumped two amazing sites because she was pregnant and about to give birth. I understand that, but after being staff on one site with her, I was tired of seeing all these people wait to be accepted while there were two other admins who did little to nothing about it. On that site, I dropped my powers and my account all together, and I joined her other site. Well I wasn't made staff there, but I still had to wait close to a week to be accepted while the other staff members came and went as they pleased, ignoring my application that I spent well over 24 hours working on.

Anyways, we just started talking again, and Jane got me to join a HP site she was working on, and she made me staff. Well that was fine, we had no idea what the plot was going to be yet, so I tried to think up ideas in my free time. I even have a list on my computer of various ideas that I thought of. Well I haven't had a chance to share them with her, instead she PMs me a few days ago mentioning another regular helper type forum that she wants me to help out on as well. Unfortunately, I agree to that as well, and I actually like the site, although it's slow moving.

Today, I sign into a site and notice that she's advertising another site that she created last night. I checked it out, and although it only had 3 members, it still hurt me. I mean, she doesn't even think about the other sites she's running, and yet she starts another. The thing that also bugs me, is the fact that she's done this more than once in the past, and I've had her shove off a number of sites onto my shoulders, and I've had to let them die because I couldn't keep up with them.

I know I shouldn't let this girl continue to do this to me, but she's my friend and I don't want her upset with me. I'm literally stuck between a rock and a hard place!

oy, she seems to be flaky. It seems that she just has sudden urges and can't go through one idea before another. I suggest you seriously don't join other boards of hers till you actually see her go through one previous idea. Try and make her work on the sites she has left unfinished. Just keep reminding her of its existence. Better yet, throw your ideas at her and try to get her jazzed enough to finish the site.

...or just drop the previous sites, if they don't feel worth the trouble. To me it seems like this Jane could possibly be a risky person to partner up with. You wouldn't be able to trust her presence and that's just not the way to go. I've had occasions where my staff stranded me, leaving me to take care of things alone and I eventually got sick of it because it started to feel more like work that I didn't enjoy anymore.

I would avoid joining her further sites. Just politely say no thank you if you do not want to hurt her.

okay i have totally been in your place before and am actually in a similar position now.

i was a regular member of this one site and because i was the only non-staff member active before they got ready to revamp i became an admin. and then i noticed the other two admins slowly disappearing and now i pretty much do all the work.
the one admin will log on but never actually do anything and the other one. the one who actually created the site has disappeared altogether it's so frustrating.
i love the site though so i'm not going to give it up.

you on the other hand should probably dump some of the sites you don't really want to be running or maybe find dedicated members who would like to run them instead so they don't die.

this jane person seems to be incredibly unreliable and i would honestly recommend just not starting any new projects with her and see if you can get her refocused on the ones she already has.

it's hard because she's your friend but you shouldn't feel guilted into running these sites for her and if that's what she's doing then you really just need to talk to her.