I run an rpg and I was having a little trouble with a member. The member joined up as one of the four horsemen of the apocalypse. I was a little worried about him over using his power, but I figured I'd just keep an eye on him. At first he seemed alright.

At first it was just little annoyances like he would only play with female characters. Then he would butt into other peoples private games and try to mess up their subplots. And I mean private games as in there's a tag stating that the game is for such a character and such a character. Then started over using his powers killing NPCs left right and center, then complained when hunters took notice of it. He then started using NPC's to majorly affect the plot, like getting super weapons from a character he made up.In the end (his last post) He started God moding and would not take any hits from anyone.

We would give him a warning and he would be fine for a little while.

After one post. He butt into someone's private game, tried to force the male character out of the game. Insulted the male character OOC. Grossly over used his characters powers and tried to use a super weapon that he got from an NPC to kill a character (which I don't allow on my board).

My Co-Admin sent him a warning to:
[*] tone down the powers a bit.
[*] not to abuse the use of NPCs
[*] that being rude ot new members would not be tollerated
[*] and that you couldn't kill another members character.

He asked him to change his post and the guy freaked on my Co-Admin and verbally attacked him. When my Co-Admin still wouldn't agree with him he came crying to me. Apparently the "nice" Admin. He started to insult my Co-Admin to me and say that I was only taking his side because of my "relationship" with him.

I immediately responded explaining in very simple terms about how he messed up and said that we didn't need him on the board any longer and that he could leave.

How do you deal with members like this before he gets out of hand and they make your board a miserable place? If they mess up once you have to give them another try or your considered the evil admin. How many chances should people be given? When do you know to draw the line? I think I should have done it a lot sooner.

I think asking him to leave was a good idea. It probably should've been done sooner. If you were a few admins I know, it probably would've been done the second time he butted into a private RP. That's probably when I would've asked him to leave, if I'd given him a warning about it and explained that it's rude to do so.

Everyone has their own time to do things. You didn't overreact, which is a big point in your favour. The time to take major action like asking him to leave is when a) he's wrecking the RPing experience for other members of the board or b) he's making you feel bad in some way, whether it be about his behaviour or your own work as an admin.

If people can see that the member in question is being unreasonable then they aren't likely to complain when you tell them to go away.

I absolutely would not take that kind of bull at all. Not at all. I would remove him from the site so fast it'd make his head spin.

Whoa, that's pretty extreme. He wouldn't have lasted long under me. You did pretty well to handle as much as you did. He would have been seriously warned over abusing NPC, and by the second interruption to a tagged thread (as Emma said) asked to reconsider his continued participation on the board.

But I've never had anything quite that bad before.. you've definitely done the right thing, and congrats on not getting angry back in his face. The most you can really do is explain the rules again, and make them leave if they refuse to comply. I think you've done well. :D

Quite honestly, had said member continued, after several warnings, not to godmode, powerplay, make use of NPCs inappropriately, and generally driving the other members insane, I would have suspended him. If that hadn't made him smarten up, I would have booted him. Unfortunately, members like those don't seem to learn a damn thing, no matter how many times you tell them to quit. I think you probably should have handled it sooner before it became a whinefest at you, but you live and learn, right? If he isn't deleted and banned by now, I think you should do it. He's not worth the hassle on your board, and he's only making it miserable for everyone else. You can either lose one, or lose a bunch because they can't handle that one. *Nod*

I moderate the gates to my game closely. I would rather have a few members that mesh well than lots who are conflicting in their views and generate a high chance of friction on the game. Essentially, I'm not above telling someone, 'no'. While I might not enjoy it, it's easier all-round. If they got in because they didn't show their colours/bad judgement, then it's best to deal with it fast. You are not obliged to be polite or try to be nice to someone who is being aggressive and irrational. Formality works well, so long as you don't stoop to calling them a poo-brain, or whatever hip insult the kids are using these days.

You dealt with it well and ultimately if the game is more harmonious without them, then don't feel guilty. Trying to be the nice guy all the time by giving people chances against your better judgement will lead to grief 8 times out of 10.

I banned him after all that happened, and allowed the character he was plotting with to kill off his character so that there was no way for him to come back. He later sent me an email complaining about that, but I had told him too bad.

It was hard not to blow up on him, but the board's a lot happier now.