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Not long ago, a new member joined our board. It took him a lot of re-writes of the application to fit our board, but in the end he was accepted. His character a human on a vampire board. If he read the rules and all the background stuff, he knows what it's about. Then he started one thread, another character (vampire) joined and he instantly felt 'uncomfortable' and didn't want to continue the thread. It made sense to none of us, since the other character acted like she always did and that's just how some vampires are...

then I agreed starting a thread with him, with one of my vampires, and soon once more he felt uncomfortable. Because his character was just food and he would just die and there was no point and blah blah blah... we then continue the thread a bit anyway, but each time I don't respond right away I'm met with "sigh" on the cbox and on aim... to be honest, member getting annoying, but I try to act nicely still...

just replied again, my character reacted to something in the thread in another way than I have thought. Now... this character of mine often has his own life. He often surprises even me, because I don't plan all he does, it just happens when I write. But then the other didn't like the respond and said he'll quit, and I totally went around what we planned. I try to explain, that's what my character does, he goes around what I plan and that's what makes him fun... FUN... characters aren't always predictable, not even mine, I can plan one thing and another happen, it is like that all the time!

but this new member takes every little thing WAY too seriously, is constantly negative about the character and the game unless it's going in a way that benefits his character. That's just... pointless... RP is meant to be fun, for everyone, but if you're constantly negative and "bored" if the reply isn't there right away, then it's not going to get any better when you complain constantly! As if I didn't have a headache to begin with, this definetly didn't make it any better. But he's been deleted as he asked...

edit; he wrote a thread saying "I quit, this forum is not or me", wrote on the cbox many times "just delete me"... so I ended up taking the hint and deleted him. So now he re-joined and calls me mean for deleting him without asking first... ARGH!

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I love to point everyone who causes drama over RP to this link:

PRETENDY FREAKIN' FUN TIME GAMES, DARNIT!

It's my favorite RP rant. Puts everything in perspective like whoa. <3

That is both hilarious and an awesome guide. You should definitely give that to that guy Atricea. ^_^

That...was pretty amazing... :)

Oh god, you made me laugh so hard, and I'm at work.

That was brilliant, and I am going to share it with everybody I know

Ew, I've seen people like that before >>; They get all whiney when you don't reply fast enough, even though you've TOLD them that you're busy with other sites or other threads and that you'll get to them when you have the time/inspiration.

I'm on one site where I asked for a really good, in-depth, meaningful, dark Rp. One guy offers up an idea he has, so I agree. We start the thread, and the moment my character denies his character's request (which was to basically storm the other side in exchange for information about my character's faction), the thread promptly ended because he couldn't think outside the damn box and couldn't fathom trying a different tact. I mean, as soon as she denied him, he took off and left. That thread lasted 6 posts. Six. Never again >>;

People are frustratingly stupid sometimes.

I've had that sorta happen. I think it was two years ago and some girl didn't like the way I was RPing with her character. The character is crazy. If she didn't want to get involved with my character, why post?

Sometime people just really don't think.

And about the deleting thing...xD LAWLS!

Oh my God. Im showing that to every one. It's HILARIOUS, yet still brilliant.

At the same time that it's annoying for people to bug constantly about a post, it's also annoying for people to take days to write one post unless they have a legit excuse. I mean, Im not saying bug a person every twenty minutes...I know people like that and they drive me insane. But after about three to four days of waiting on one post when they've been online Id say its okay to atleast bring the topic up in a conversation (yes, I know, PA).

That has got to be one of the funniest things I have ever read. My stomach aches....

I can relate 100%, and it's SO frustrating when people DON'T understand that! I can't stand planning things out, and I used to say that I didn't mind if it was vague and what not. "Oh, yeah, our characters can get together" and they do, and my character's ex-girlfriend shows up to an event with his best friend, blah blah blah naturally, my character is going to react badly.

I didn't plan his reaction, he simply reacted badly. I'm sorry you're yelling at me over AIM about the fact that your little whiny witch of a character is jealous over that fact. GOD FORBID I KEEP THINGS REALISTIC. How about instead of yelling at me OOC in MSN/AIM, why not make YOUR CHARACTER yell at MY CHARACTER IN THE RP!

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But no, I can totally understand. And, in another form of the member you describe, said member choses to simply not reply after begging and nagging for me to reply. And once I finally do, it's not what they wanted. It's like 'okay, sorry I keep my character IC, you might want to try it sometime'.

In my experience with people like you describe, their characters tend to be VERY sue-ish. I don't know about your specific member, but that's how it has been for me, save the example in my mini-rant above. What was sad about that situation was the fact that the member who was upset because my character reacted, apparently, in an 'off plan' way is a well-seasoned RPer and writer!


When something goes off with the plot I was planning with someone, it's fine- its realistic. I have my character act accordingly. I don't see why other's can't simply do that as well, instead of complaining OOC about it or getting "uncomfortable".

I feel your frustration.

The member you're talking about reminds me of one that was on my own site. He created this werewolf character, and then basically did nothing. He would sit in the cbox and "sigh" and say he was bored. Finally, while talking to him in there, I suggested that he make a thread somewhere, and that someone would reply. He posted an open thread somewhere that, at that point in time, only my character really had a reason to be. (The site was just starting, she was a canon and her dad worked at the place, and if anyone else were to reply, they'd have to come up with some good reason for being there). I already had her in three different threads, though, and didn't want to join in on another just yet, so I talked to one of my friends on the site over AIM and helped her come up with a reason for having her character there, and she posted to him. I was just trying to be a good admin and get him someone to post with.

Well, she starts posting with him and in the thread he immediately starts saying things about his male character's pheromones and how they would attract her female no matter what. She let it go as far as making her want to talk to him, but nothing else. He started ignoring the thread and whining in the cbox about how his character was going to need a girlfriend. After that he starts posting in the game threads in the OOC section. He posted in a couple like "Hot or Not" and some other one that was similiar, and he posted right after my character in there and made comments about how he really liked her but she didn't even know he existed and blah blah. (They were games where you had to post IC). The characters that posted after him sort of made fun of him because there was a slight age difference there. Eventually he stopped posting in those threads, and ignoring his one other IM thread on the site. All that was annoying enough on its own, but...

He would come on everyday and just lurk. He'd keep posting "sigh" "bored" or "la la la" in the cbox, but make no effort to do anything. When someone would offer to post with him, he would decline if he didn't like their PB or if they had been one of the people that made fun of him in the OOC thread, because he took the games far too personally. I even talked to him in the cbox about it a little and he said that that was how it always was on sites in that genre - people always harrassed his kind of character. (Um, well, I can't help if vampires hate werewolves, mkay?) He says he just wants to leave and that the site isn't for him, and for some reason I talk him out of leaving, but he still won't post anywhere. He even has the nerve just to come to the site and ask in the cbox for OTHER SITES based on the same thing. (Specifically he asked for one where my character wasn't involved with the other character that she's involved with in the books). When he wasn't doing that, he was just once again continuing on with his "sigh" "bored" "la la la".

Thankfully, he didn't post in the activity check and no longer comes to the site often. Everyone on there was getting tired of him. He seriously started ignoring threads because he couldn't get himself either the canon that I play or another woman, and because people in the HOTORNOT threads didn't like his character. >.> I found two other sites of the same genre as mine that he went to. One, he just posted in the cbox simply to say that he wasn't going to join because he didn't want to be a third wheel to the same couple on the site that was on mine as well. The other he joined, made some character whose speciies didn't even exist in that verse and then tried to ACCEPT HIMSELF. He posted in his own application that he was accepted. The admin had to end up telling him that one, his character would have to be changed, and two, he couldn't accept himself. He left that site and once again returned to mine to ask in the cbox if anyone knew a site where the main canon couple was not together.

All of this because he wanted his original character to date a canon book character who is in love with someone already. Really? REALLY? If you want her so bad, make the canon guy who is with her! That or make your own site where she's free, OR, hell, FIND SOMEONE ELSE. Is it really that hard to either not have a hook up or find a character that would actually work with yours and grow? I mean, jeez. He doesn't get what he wants, and suddenly everything's horrible for him.

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Yeah, I just wanted to agree that members like that were frustrating. haha. I ended up saying more than I meant to :p

I've had members like that, to an extent. It's not easy dealing with players who don't read things before leaping into the action. When players gripe/whine that I am (or somebody else is) slow replying, I usually tell them that real life sometimes gets in the way and then I wait an extra day or two before replying.

Troublesome members are troublesome.



Good link, Rhi-Rhi. :)

Is this the same person we're talking about because it sounds like it... all that "sigh" and "bored", it sounds like the same. And this one also complained about people not liking his character and so on, and didn't want to RP with him. But then again, with that way to act in the cbox and towards other members, I get why they dislike the character and the person behind it ;) but well, it's all over now...

- you want to know how the story ended? After the deletion he re-joined (which I think I wrote), and continued to act badly on the cbox, complaining, "yelling", using very bad language and refused to listen to any of us (we were more admins on at that time)... so in the end, said member was banned completely and we're all doing great again :)

although one of my co-admins said the person contacted her on aim (since I have blocked them...), saying how sorry they were that they made me angry and wishes to apologize and come back and act well... uhm... not going to buy that o.O

Oh god. I can't stand when after they act like that, the approach the group trying to be the 'mature voice of reason' despite the fact they just had this two year old temper tantrum moments before. Had issues like that with a guy in an rp guild on WoW