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Title: My Online Friends > Real-life Friends
Description: Fact or fiction?


Sunday - April 18, 2008 01:11 AM (GMT)
Do you enjoy talking to your online friends more than your real life ones?
Do you get along better with the ones online?
Etc. etc.

I voted True and false, because... I'm pretty social, but I don't have many good friends, so it's a hard comparison. I have one best friend in real life, who can simply not be replaced, and a few other good friends who I wouldn't change for the world either; but there are a few people I've met through roleplaying that I wish I knew IRL. Just a few, though, lol. I'm completely aware that just IMing someone changes how you interact.

Mousie - April 18, 2008 01:16 AM (GMT)
True and false.

I have some extremely good friends IRL. The sort I'd have no problems trusting my life with, people who I'll let see me cry (and that's a big thing).

At the same time, I've met some awesome people online who have been able to be there when the IRL ones couldn't. Some I've now made into IRL friends, so I guess it's fair to say I love you all equally. :D

morosely - April 18, 2008 01:20 AM (GMT)
I'd have to vote true to getting along with people better online, but that's because it always ends up like that. I move a lot so eventually it merely comes down to us chatting online, which is cool with me. I tend to be less of a spazz online anyways.

sarahj - April 18, 2008 01:30 AM (GMT)
I voted "True, for the most part". I have some really good friends IRL, but there are things about myself that I just don't feel like I can tell most of my IRL friends, which I do hate. I have two IRL friends that I feel like I can tell absolutely everything too, but my best friend is an online friend and I always end up telling him things first. One of the IRL friend I tell everything to, I usually end up telling him things via IM... so yup, it's mostly true, but iffy I guess.

RomanHk - April 18, 2008 01:35 AM (GMT)
I voted True and False. Sunday already summed up my situation better than I could so I'll defer and say that my situation is pretty much like hers.

Ariana - April 18, 2008 01:38 AM (GMT)
There's something about talking to people face to face that I feel can't be replaced by the internet. I voted 'False, for the most part' because all my best friends and people I would do anything for I know in RL. Then again, it was sort of a tie between that response and 'True and False' because while I don't feel particularly feel close to anyone (at least not on the same level as people I know IRL) I just love 'em all.

SpazzyMal - April 18, 2008 01:44 AM (GMT)
I'm one of those losers who really has no life outside the internet, due to... stuff. Meh. I adore talking to people in real life, but have no friends because I'm stuck at home pretty much all the time. It's weird.

But I've of course grown very attached to my internet friends because of this.

punjabberwocky - April 18, 2008 01:51 AM (GMT)
I voted "true and false" because the friendships I have online are very different from the ones I have IRL. Frankly, I'm more open about myself online, so my online friendships are actually far more personal than my IRL ones, but my IRL friendships have a totally different appeal. The only humor most people with ever get out of me online is sarcasm and the occasional pun, but IRL I'm sort of nuts. I talk online and I laugh offline, so it'd be impossible to compare the two as they're completely different.

AshBeanNun - April 18, 2008 02:06 AM (GMT)
False, for the most part. Several of my RL friends are also my roleplaying buddies, so I get the best of both worlds there. I've also struck up some very good friendships with people online. Ultimately though, a computer-to-computer relationship is nowhere near as good as a face-to-face relationship. Although it's easier to talk online (I probably wouldn't make a peep around most of you people otherwise), it still feels sort of empty. This isn't me, it's my online persona. I have friends in real life who I only get to see for one week a year at a camp, yet they are some of my best friends because we have the same beliefs and interests, there's a tight bond there that doesn't diminish over time.

Online relationships are more neutral and open, but they're not necessarily more personal. My online friends can't tell me I have something stuck in my teeth or chat about the good old days in high school. I suppose I place a lot of the value of friendship in being there for someone physically, not just talking about things.

Keijukainen - April 18, 2008 02:38 AM (GMT)
I've met four real life friends because of online interaction. Three of them are RPing mates and the fourth is from a military-themed discussion board. The fourth one... we actually met up in part by accident, at a chow hall on Fort Sam Houston.

Online friends aren't a complete replacement for real life mates, but they are often more easily tracked down. A phone call can be missed, but PMs rarely are.

It's mostly about perspective, I suppose.

.Ra - April 18, 2008 03:26 AM (GMT)
I voted true and false like many people on here. I have the friends that have known me forever IRL but then again I have been rping with people for years and have developed life long friendships with them. For some people I met online we have each others numbers and text now and then.

Panda - April 19, 2008 09:49 AM (GMT)
A bit of both. I consider my closest online friends to be 'real life' friends, anyway. I may not see them but I have personal contact info for them and I discuss things with them as I would any of my other friends. The only difference between them and my real social group is I get to see my local friends when I like.

There is however, another part to my social group that I don't consider as close as my real life friends and by and large these are an 'outer circle'. People I wouldn't meet, people I don't talk to about personal stuff, etc.

_Nadiya - April 20, 2008 03:47 PM (GMT)
I consider my friends online to be my real life friends. I mean, they are real people, just as my other friends that aren't online are. I feel like..sure there is a distinction between the two, but I wouldn't consider my friends from online to be any less than any others. My best friend is someone I met online, and I talk to her about everything. We live in two different states, yet we talk on the phone, we IM of course, and we see each other, by pictures or cam, whatever it may be.

Anyway, I voted True, for the most part, because I've met some of the most fascinating friends online and I wouldn't give them up for anything.

Metallicar - April 24, 2008 08:27 AM (GMT)
true.
some things i only talk about people online with.
this is usually fandom stuff. but the people who i consider "friends" online are the ones i've discussed personal life stuff with. nothing serious just: "hey how's blank going?"

false.
i think i get more irritated with more people online than offline. i swear it's my attention span and how i read what they right and interpret it.
since in real life you can see people's reactions and i'm sort of sensitive when it comes to people's written opinions i just don't socialize that much.
i can take it personally when people don't post after or in response to what i post. but i've come to accept that i'm just a spazz in that sense or that really i have nothing to contribute and i like to hear the clicking of the keyboard. it's one of the two i'm quite certain.

samaside - April 24, 2008 08:35 AM (GMT)
Want to hear something kind of creepy?

I used to belong to a huge Fullmetal Alchemist group back on LJ like years ago. I ran a chat community through AIM. And, you know, usual high school stuff. I liked anime, I was on this community, whatever. Usual stuff right?

So, fast forward like TWO YEARS and we get to my freshman year of college. I show up and meet one of my current best friends. We hung, we chilled. And then one day I was updating LJ and she was like. "Wait."

Turns out we had known each other and been talking to each other back and forth every once in a while for like two years. And then we came to the same school. Not a big deal right?

The school is in Stockton, CA. Middle of nowhere, CA. Has a student body population of 3,500. And our program only accepts 50 people a year. She's from CA. My family is military and we currently live in MO.

Anyway.

Random story.




That said, IRL friends and online-friends are sorta equal for me. And I like when they become IRL friends. I like people. :pink:

Emma - April 28, 2008 08:09 PM (GMT)
I voted true and false. IRL I don't see my friends very often (although it's more than some my friends seem to lose interest if I don't see them every day) because I go to another school. Online I have some people I'd love to know IRL (they're all like five years older than me) but I doubt I ever will, because no one lives in New Zealand!

I don't tell online people more stuff, because I tell anyone anything. I talk to my online friends more often, but I don't tell them more about myself.

Crysthia - April 29, 2008 12:15 AM (GMT)
I voted true for the most part. Sadly i don't have many real life friends, i think i'm too much of a geek but i've made some really lasting and deep friendships online. Too bad they don't all live closer to me then maybe i'd get out more lol

WildeThing - May 27, 2008 10:39 PM (GMT)
I voted mostly true. Now, I have a lot of both online friends and real-life friends, but I think that I connect more with my online friends. I am basically two different people among the two different groups, and I like myself better around my online-friends. I think that that person is closer to who I really am, or who I want to be. I've tried implementing that personality into my real-life social circle, with average success. I find that my 'real-life' friends bore me, and we simply aren't on the same brainwave, and I have to conform to being (what I percieve as) immature so I can enjoy myself around them. And really, I don't enjoy myself that much, I'm more enjoying myself through their enjoyment. I hope that when I finally move to England, I will be able to find friends with whom that does't have to happen.

Thing is, I've also found other people, with whom I'm interacting more and more with, who are quite similar to my online friends, and I like hanging out with them more. Unfortunately, most of them are leaving the country next year, so too little too late. I've also found that my 'new' personality around my 'real-life' friends has caused a change in many of them, and I like them better now, and we get along better, without me having to butcher my personality to do so (at least less so).

I do think, though, that many of my online friends are real-life friends who I simply haven't met in person. I wish to do so in the near future, though. On a similar note, though, I've found that I get along with more people in real life than online.

Jalynn - May 27, 2008 11:38 PM (GMT)
Voted true and False, I have some truly terrific RL friends who are just absolutely amazing and I couldn't ask for any better, but I also have a few online friends who are just the same and I can talk about anything with them and not feel embarrassed for the most part..

antisocialist87 - May 28, 2008 12:03 AM (GMT)
Another True and False person. Reasons for my decision have already been provided here.

Hera - May 29, 2008 02:51 AM (GMT)
I have a lot of online friends, some whom I've met, some not. I consider many of them to be true-blue honest-ya-get-it friends, but others I don't really know - so while I am friend-ly, I don't consider these on the same 'level' as the friends I do know irl .... now this just sounds complicated.

In sum, I have more friends irl than online. Yeah.

Meredith - May 29, 2008 03:00 AM (GMT)
True and false. While my online friends can be great, and sometimes are much less irksome than my real life friends, nothing compares to IRL friends. Hanging out with them, etc. etc.

The Breed - May 29, 2008 03:06 AM (GMT)
False for the most part.

My real life friends I find to be loyal, online friends are too much of a slippery slope. So they aren't friends, more like "Acquaintances" Not to mention I think some of my online friends I wouldn't be able to stand in real life. UBER CLING MUCH????

There's only one exception out of that, lol. But I've known her online since I was about 11 and a newb on neopets fangirling over LOTR.

iolanaelle - June 1, 2008 01:04 AM (GMT)
I guess it all just depends, so I voted True and False.

I have great friends in real life, and they are different from my online friends too. I have a small number of online friends that I trust, though. Personally, I think friends I made online become real-life ones... and even that takes a great deal of time and trust.

Bonnie - June 19, 2008 05:18 AM (GMT)
I LOVE my online friends, but when it comes down to it, I would rather have my RL friends. I'm a very touchy-feely person, literally. I need those hugs, even if I don't get to talk to them every day.

I can also always count on them for support and a shoulder to cry on and they'll know who I'm talking about.

Of course, when I want to have some RPing fun, there is no one better than my online amigos.

Jae - June 26, 2008 12:39 PM (GMT)
I can't answer the pooollllll. There should be an "other" option. xDD

Uhh, my best friend and another close friend are both people I met in real life, and they are amazing. Other than that, I've found that most of my RL friends aren't really good friends at all. I also have a few of online friends that I'd trust with, well, everything. I've known some of them for nearly as long as I've known my RL friends. I wish I could say that I'd be best friends with them if I met them IRL, but actually, I have a feeling that it would be kind of awkward if we met.

XD It's just, when you meet people face-to-face, you kind of know what you're up for. People online, they're so different and so diverse -- some really cool people are also very different from the people you or I usually hang out with, and not everyone acts the same in real life as they do online.

PhoenixLily - June 26, 2008 02:24 PM (GMT)
I said True and false because for me, it's two completely different kinds of frendships. IRL I'm spazzy, quirky, a tad insane, and it takes a certain type of people that can mesh with that. Online, I'm more put together, though still quirky, and a little saner, mostly because I have the chance to read what I am about to say and be like...err...wait...that did not come out like I wanted it to. (thank god for th backspace button) And again, different people = different interractions. I have som AMAZING friends online that I wouldn't exchange forthe world...and same for my RL budds. :)

MissMudblood - June 26, 2008 08:25 PM (GMT)
    True and false for me, as well. I love face-to-face talking, and stuff, so my Real life friends are great. It's just, sometimes my online friends are... nicer? I don't know. I love my real-life friends and all, but I'll be serious here-- some of them can be real assholes, or drama-causers. It's true. Being online with friends is just less strained for me, and all. So, true and false.. I guess. Oh, and Online friends hanen't known me forever, so they don't exactly know how I act IRL... x.x

Carmen Sandiego - June 26, 2008 10:25 PM (GMT)
I put true and false.

I have a few really close internet friends that I know I can always count on, but then I also have my boyfriend and best friend that I'm with all the time. I like the balance :]

SmathNa - July 5, 2008 03:07 AM (GMT)
False. There just isn't the same dynamic with people I don't know in real life, and there's less trust. That said, at least one real-life friend is also an online friend. :p And I do love some of my online friends. It just isn't the same, though it depends on the situation.




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